Painted on Jeans.

It seems like yesterday that people everywhere said she was a cute bundle of joy. There just seems to be something special about baby girls that pull at the heartstrings of both a mother and father. Although bruised and exhausted after her stressful journey into this world, she is well known by her beautiful features which resemble heavenly serenity, yet her hidden joy is yet to be realized.

While young and inexperienced, she is a precious jewel with much to learn; yet life will prove to be the antidote to the thing that eludes her most. The early days of bumps and bruises appear to be insignificant, yet soon enough, they will prove to alter her decisions yet feel natural in the process. Fathers do well to protect their prized joy wrapped in pink while sporting barrettes and a tiny purse, whereas mothers claim host to having carried, birthed and nurtured this little girl—its daddy that really made the difference.

The day daddy left, was the same day the earth stopped rotating and all directions led into the ground. That girl is no longer a baby, and an absentee father has promoted the decisions she wrestles with in secret. Mommy did the best she could, and for whatever reason daddy left a hole larger than the Grand Canyon in her heart, family and future. Who needs a compass when you can look for treasure to replace the pain and suffering on your own?

Painted On JeansMany little girls today range in age from their teens to nineties, yet they are still looking for daddy to come home and put his arm around them, cry on their shoulder and say, “I’m sorry, love you and everything is going to be alright”, yet this reality will not be experienced by many.

Little girls are beautiful, simple yet extremely complex. The place where life begins is also the place where life extends. It’s never been enough to be a biological mother or father; little girls are highly impacted and shaped by their relationship and influence from their daddy.

The scales of life offer extreme alternatives to genuine love, purity and hope—while the love and affection of daddy offers encouragement, affirmation and stability; the absence of daddy offers rebellion, promiscuity and insanity. In a world that is obsessed with experiencing everything for the sake of selfish desires, young girls are easy prey to the assembly line of young men who are skilled at feeding their minds with words their hearts can barely comprehend. Respect never begins after your clothes come off.

Titus 2:4-5, “These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to take care of their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands.” (NLT)

So many women and young girls never had a daddy, and were left to navigate through life with a broken compass, often running from one broken relationship to another. Does painted-on jeans, blouses four sizes small and 3-inch heels make a woman? Can a woman without a relationship with her daddy honor others without desperate acts of affirmation?

Depending on your own abilities is exactly what got you into trouble in the first place. Right now all that really matters is a right perspective. Then and only then will you have the ability to make the appropriate choices that will lead you to respect yourself and others.

It doesn’t matter if you’re married, single, a student, or a widow; authentic hope will never be found in starving yourself behind closed doors, blaming men for your choices or giving away your body as sexual trade for the false hope of not being alone. It’s a new day, and new decisions need to be made. Let’s walk this mile together.

Until next time, Be encouraged.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


 

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Speaker | Author | TV Host | Life Coach

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Thank You for Your Patience.

Have you ever noticed how every time you’re in a hurry, no one else is? Early this morning, I decided to run an errand to a well known retail-grocery chain. My primary intention was for an uneventful experience to quickly get in, purchase what I needed, and be on my way.

There’s nothing quite like the feeling of thinking my plan is coming together until I was faced with the option of how I was going to checkout and pay for my items: (1) Self checkout, or (2) Cashier checkout line? All I could think of was, “Which line is moving fastest?”

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The self checkout was already occupied by customers who seemed to be having all kinds of trouble scanning their items, whereas the cashier check-out line only had one customer with a few items, but the cashier seemed to be setting a new world record for the slowest checkout procedure.

After having chosen to stand in the cashier checkout line and wait for the cashier to lethargically finish ringing up the customer ahead of me, I realized the impatience in my heart was absolutely unwarranted and self serving.

Rather than saying good morning, my checkout cashier greeted me by saying, “Thank you for your patience.” I was instantly overwhelmed with the conviction that the universe doesn’t revolve around my life, nor is my perceived plan to get in and get out a priority for others.

I wonder how many times a day we’re faced with real opportunities to observe the beauty of nature, the needs of mankind, or the simple joy of being alive, yet we bury our heads in our smartphones as we text away every waking moment or roam the internet seeking worthless “likes” on our statuses?

Patience by its very nature cannot be hurried in its virtue. Nevertheless, time isn’t the factor for which patience is learned, rather it is the condition of our heart. I encourage you to think about ways you can learn to be patient today with circumstances or others in whom you are most annoyed. Buckle up, this may take awhile.

Until next time, Be encouraged.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration. Until next time, Be encouraged.


 

Egypt McKee

Speaker | Author | TV Host | Life Coach

©2014 Copyright, Egypt McKee. All Rights Reserved.

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