Relationships in 142 Characters.

When was the last time you held a meaningful conversation with someone in person? Your response might reveal more about the fragility of relationships than any other time in the history of the world.

Neil Armstrong, United States Astronaut, was well documented for being the first person to step onto the surface of the moon, as he triumphantly declared, “One small step for man; one giant leap for mankind.”

Who could have imagined the irony of such a simple statement as it relates to the dynamics of relationships in every culture around the world?

Historically, technological advancements have often been well received, yet uncertainty by late adopters has served as a necessary balance in the halls of debate.

Somewhere lost in translation, resides the simple requirement to acknowledge the most basic of principles about mankind—specifically our purpose.texting

Many books have been written about mans purpose, and it is my unwavering conviction that God created man and gave him a purpose based upon a series of personal relationships.

God designed the first relationship in man to be based upon a life of worship. It’s in this place of worship that mankind acknowledges his creator and lives joyfully within the balance for which he was created.

Many people today argue against this simple understanding for sake of religion, tolerance, or popular opinion; yet every human being is uniquely created in their personality, fingerprints, DNA, talents, and gifts.

Psalms 139:14, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, and I know that full well.” (NIV)

It never ceases to amaze me of God’s divine order with his creation. Mankind was not expected to attend church every time the church doors were open, nor to sing praise and worship songs until the cows came home.

We were given a responsibility to establish and manage a series of personal relationships throughout life, which would enhance both our lives and the lives of those in our sphere of influence.

It’s in our personal sphere of influence, the Greek term oikos, where this story really begins.

Just 25 years ago, you would’ve been perceived as someone important if you had a pager, yet 20 years ago, you would’ve been even more important if you carried a large mobile telephone.

Since the introduction of the Internet, technologies have radically influenced the way people think, speak, and behave.

Decades ago, healthy relationships were measured by the model of a happily married father and mother in a household where families enjoyed regular meals together, respected their elders, and reserved the mystery of sexuality until marriage.

To say that times have changed would be an understatement in the history of understatements! The explosive combinations of peoples desire to become famous and social networks have created negative affects on relationships that are quickly becoming the norm.

Today, most people carry a cellular telephone, which many are equipped with access to the Internet and social network portals such as Facebook, MySpace, YouTube, or Twitter.

Initially, the allure of joining a social network portal was generally based upon finding friends, promoting a business, or identifying oneself with a global community of like-minded enthusiasts.

The level of effort required to setup oneself on a social network was often time consuming yet engaging, because after all, it is your life.

The more time and energy invested in getting your social network started meant the more often you’d find yourself logging on to see what other people were saying and doing.

Never before has anyone really cared if you were walking your dog, sitting on a lunch break, or watching the rain fall on the ground, yet all of a sudden it now seems to be relevant for whatever reason.

Social networks are now on the global scene to stay, and they have significantly influenced the way people communicate. Once passive personalities, are now boldly proclaiming statements they would never speak out loud to their own mothers.

The creative minds of young people have mastered new language barriers, which take advantage of limited broadcast space to declare their next global statement of legitimacy or ignorance.

There are literally billions of text messages, videos, and images that are broadcast daily around the world, yet fewer people than ever are actually spending time developing their core purpose—personal relationships.

If the truth be known, there are numerous parents everywhere sending text messages to their children instead of personally speaking with them—while they are merely a few steps away in another room; or the young man who breaks up with his girlfriend by updating the status of his social network account.

These examples of virtual relationships within close proximity are irresponsible at best, and pathetic excuses for not personally communicating with others who may or may not closely align with your personal views and convictions.

No technology will ever replace mans relationships, yet many people have been deceived that the reward is worth the risks.

No one gets to choose the people in their sphere of influence, we are literally born into it, whereas social networks allow you to setup controls over whom you allow into your sphere of influence.

I’m convinced every family has a “black sheep” relative that no one wants to talk about; they tend to visit during holidays or inopportune times, and always have something rude to say. If it weren’t for difficult people, we might never pray!

In an effort to streamline relationships through technology, we all bought into a better-broken version of ourselves through building kingdoms of friends in our social networks that we would never meet, lists of top friends—which exclude and annoy our lifelong family and friends, and impersonal updates about irrelevant information, which is at best uninteresting. Where will it all end?

The moral to this story might surprise you in that social networks are not the enemy, it’s problem rests in the choices we make as individuals.

I’ve always said, relationships are dirty business, and it requires us to roll up our sleeves and listen long before we start doing anything.

Could you refrain from checking your social-network status or email for 3-days? I’d like to challenge you today to write down all the names of people who are in your sphere of influence, then include a note on what you need to do this week to encourage them, preferably in person. Buckle up, this could get personal.

Until next time, Be encouraged.


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me. In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


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Three’s a Crowd

There’s nothing quite as annoying as trying to carry on a conversation with someone over the phone, and they repeatedly drop in and out of your conversation with a mystery third party. The more we seem to advance as people, the more dependent we become on multifunctional skills we neither developed nor have the capacity to master.

How did we ever make it in life back in the old days? Simple, we offered one another a mutual respect, our undivided attention, and we held a conversation as if the other person mattered. I encourage you to do the unthinkable today by turning off your cell phone for a single day, and learn to communicate with others the old fashion way—IN PERSON.

 

Until next time, Be encouraged.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

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Momma’s Boy.

Back in the day, the phrase “Momma’s boy” implied a young man was somewhat less of a man because of his willingness and desire to be pampered by his mothers overreaching favor and control. In many ways, I cannot help but think we were all a little envious of that brand of special attention from mothers.

Sadly, the hopes of developing a child with the character of personal responsibility, humility, generosity, hard work, and moral standards has produced the opposite effects.

Today, boys trade in reality for a virtual existence through video games, smart phones, mobile devices, computers, and television.

It’s a miracle their thumbs don’t grow longer from hours of text messaging and gaming! It’s bad enough that many young boys know how to survive a virtual military shootout in a video game, but don’t know the importance of being generous, hospitable, or serving the poor and impoverished.

Although fathers are key in guiding, training, and mentoring their sons to think and behave as honorable men, it’s moms that have the daily tactical advantage of influencing character as a result of proximity.

If you’re a mom, I want to encourage you to unplug your electronic world and do what you do best, and that’s rally your family to connect as a family today. Maybe that means pulling out the board games …. you remember Operation, Monopoly, and Battleship? Maybe it’s time to build a jigsaw puzzle as a family, but rest assured it will require something none of you may have exercised in quite sometime: Brain Cells.

Trust me, no child, especially boys, should be sitting around for countless hours learning to kill people on virtual battlefields when the battefield most worth winning is best known as your home. I encourage you to give it a try and see how your perspective in life influences those most precious around you.

Be encouraged.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


 

Egypt McKee

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Young World: Don’t forget where you come from.

Being your own person sounds great until you actually try it. The incubator of life generally begins at home with a loving father and mother or guardian who did the very best they could to raise you with good character and integrity.

More often than not, the desire to get out of dodge means long periods of time before you ever recognize that you’ve failed to call or visit your parents. Trust me, no parent worth their salt is comfortable with this behavior.

Don’t forget where you came from. Abandon your smart phone and computer, and visit them personally if you can, and give them a hug, and thank them for all they’ve done for you. Then you can ask to borrow more money!

 

I Told You So.

I recently saw a news broadcast regarding the increasing lack of jobs available among young people this Summer. The nationally recognized journalist delivered a convincing narrative that more money should be immediately invested into the government sector in an effort to create more jobs for young people. At about this time, I began listening with the effectiveness of and adult reprisal of Charlie Brown.

Sadly, the journalist was likely focused upon reading through the teleprompter with precision rather than contemplating the brevity of the subject matter. How is it possible that we as people contend to advance in education, yet fail to enlist it in an effort to explore and ask the right questions? On the surface, it’s easy to discount the popularity or coolness factor for discussing jobs among young people, yet there is a real component here that far exceeds cause and effect.

How exactly are we as Fathers, Mothers, Guardians, and Concerned Citizens of the United States modeling appropriate behavior to young people, particularly in a down market? Sadly, we have generated such an entitlement attitude of arrogance, laziness, and selfishness that to undo this callous character trend would be invasive at the least. Young people all agree that their dreams are huge, even unrealistic, yet they own them and will generally find more accomplishment in “thinking about it” or “tweeting about it” rather than preparing for it and actually doing what it takes to accomplish it.

Fathers and Mothers have always been the appointed and preferred first line of defense and offense with regard to instilling and developing good character in their children. I’ve always said, “it takes a village to raise a man and woman of character”, and far too many young people have escaped invaluable life lessons, which are required for effective leadership.

Rather than wait around by passing up perceived “menial jobs” because they lack glamour or excessive salaries, we as a nation would much farther advance in character and prosperity if we would consider promoting ownership and creativity rather than borrowing money from foreign governments to finance ineffective social programs.

The economy, regardless of its ranking on the stock market, will always influence purchasing power, however hard work, creativity, and focus is not easily affected by such market conditions. What does the person who has no money think about? Money, of course. Years ago as a young teenager, I remember learning many of life’s domestic skills from my grandfather and grandmother. I learned early on how to be creative by knocking on doors and asking my neighbors if I could cut their grass, wash cars, wash windows, run errands, rake leaves, shovel snow, or do whatever I could to earn my own money with integrity.

We are certainly all responsible for ripping off the next generation by giving them everything they want and not requiring them to get up off their butts to work for it, plan for it, commit to it, serve many years in it, and excel in it. We are robbing the next generation of a fundamental truth that is required of a society based upon freedom: Hard work, Ownership, Sweat Equity, Sacrifice, Generosity, and Humility. My name is Egypt McKee, and I approve this message.

Until next time, Be encouraged.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


 

Egypt McKee

Speaker | Author | TV Host | Life Coach

©2014 Copyright, Egypt McKee. All Rights Reserved.

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