Empty.

Life is short, and there’s no debating this fact. Things come and go, perspectives come and go, and eventually people come and go faster than a blink in time. I’m convinced if it weren’t for difficult times, we might never pray. It’s been awhile since I last wrote, and as I reflect upon my life over the past several months, I’m hard pressed to respond to the simplicity of one of life’s most basic questions, “How are you?”

It’s in that moment where the trajectory of our maturity and character is once again tested on the stage of truth. The fact that multiple responses are considered before rendering a verdict is nothing short of a scandal in the making. Should I smile and say, “good?” Should I deploy reverse psychology and say, “great, how about you?” After all, it’s not about me even though it is about me because they asked. Transparency is easily masqueraded by good intentions, while the evidence of hopes and dreams lay just beyond arms reach.

I confess that over the past two decades, I’ve been honored to spend a great deal of time building and rebuilding the lives of others as a Christian Pastor, Counselor, and Life Coach. I’m blessed to have held a front row seat to miraculous turnarounds in many lives and marriages, and wouldn’t trade that for anything. Yet as we experience this holy weekend, I wonder if we share the proper perspective on what it truly means to be empty?

Many times, we master a skill that is counterproductive to our freedom and peace in life—our cover story. You know your cover story better than anyone, and sadly there are numerous versions of it. Sadly, the pain you’re experiencing today is real, valid, and will destroy you if you allow it. A predictable excuse might be to assign blame to someone other than yourself to distance yourself as the cause or contributor, or maybe pretending that you’ve got control over the issue is more convenient.Egypt on Route 66

The emptiness in your heart is not easily explained, and I won’t pretend to know exactly how you feel today carrying the burden of losing a loved one, not being able to naturally birth children, struggling with the news that you have cancer, or having your life turned inside-out because your spouse wants an unexpected divorce. Some of you might be thinking, “you haven’t walked in my shoes!” and this is true—my feet won’t fit in your shoes, nor do yours fit mine, but we can still walk in pursuit of truth on this journey of life.

Not many years ago, I suffered an unexplained medical trauma, which left my equilibrium in disarray and excessive dry heaving over a 3-day period. Ultimately, I was rushed to the hospital to undergo extensive tests; one of which was a myelogram. Unfortunately, I experienced major complications to this medical procedure, and felt as if I were going to die. I remember lying on my bed in a completely dark room because light and sound exacerbated my pain. There was nothing more important to me than to be free from my pain.

To make a long story short, I had a miraculous personal experience with Jesus Christ that has forever changed my life. I begged The Lord Jesus Christ to end my pain, which was code for “end my life!” yet I remember Him distinctly saying to me, “you forgot to ask me one thing”, I replied, “What?”, and He said, “You forgot to invite me into your pain.”

Instantaneously, my eyes were opened with the understanding that The Lord desired to free me from my pain—not of my pain. There was no immediate magical ending to my experience, yet I continued to endure indescribable pain for another few days, but at least the Lord was there in my pit of pain with me. As we celebrate this Easter season, let’s not be distracted with bunny rabbits, chocolates, or an attitude of apathy.

Romans 5:8, “But God demonstrated his own love for us in this: While were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  NIV

There’d be nothing special about Jesus Christ’s sacrifice on Friday if it weren’t for Sunday morning. There is hope for you today no matter how empty you are, and there’s an empty tomb as proof. Happy Ressurection Day, He is risen!

Until next time, be encouraged.

 


I speak to thousands of men, women, and young adults annually on leadership, relationships, life’s purpose, and decision making. Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote of life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to invite me as a speaker for your next event, please contact me. Excerpts published from the book, “Life. The Struggle Within, by Egypt McKee”


 

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New Season

One things for sure, if you breathe long enough, you’re going to experience change in life. Far too often, we fill the voids in our schedules with boredom and wasteful activities as we anticipate the perceived drudgery of the off season or future expectations.

For some students, Summer vacation just got started when they realized it’s now time to return for another year. For college graduates, the rigors of cramming for finals is traded in for the misery of seeking a job in a highly competitive marketplace. Yet for some parents, the seductive pressure to wonder what your preschooler will be like as a teen has caused many to miss the joy of parenting.

My family and I relocated to North Dallas, Texas just three days ago, and everything I once knew as routine, familiar, and comfortable seemed to be thrown right out the window. Emotionally, new things bring about a sense of excitement and anticipation for great possibilities, yet today I found myself mesmerized by a simple act.Change

While on my way to an early meeting, I noticed a woman dropping her child off to her babysitter, yet the child was calm up until the moment the mom handed her child to the babysitter. As I observed this transition, I noticed how the infant transitioned from calm and quiet into a a machine-like siren resembling a fire engine.

Instantaneously, I could see myself in a similar position whereby the comforts of what I’m most familiar and comfortable had to be vacated so that I could experience growth in a new territory. Nevertheless, my hope would be to do so without tears and crying.

In any case, a thought hit me, “Every season is the culmination of an off season of preparation.”  Maybe you’re feeling intimidated today because you are dealing with major life changes, or maybe you’re miserable because you were supposed to make a change in a toxic relationship that is destroying you, but refused to and are now suffering the consequences?

Whatever your situation, I trust you’ll make the right decision to prepare for what’s to come so that you may perform when it matters most in life.  Until next time, Be encouraged.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me. In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


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Relationships in 142 Characters.

When was the last time you held a meaningful conversation with someone in person? Your response might reveal more about the fragility of relationships than any other time in the history of the world.

Neil Armstrong, United States Astronaut, was well documented for being the first person to step onto the surface of the moon, as he triumphantly declared, “One small step for man; one giant leap for mankind.”

Who could have imagined the irony of such a simple statement as it relates to the dynamics of relationships in every culture around the world?

Historically, technological advancements have often been well received, yet uncertainty by late adopters has served as a necessary balance in the halls of debate.

Somewhere lost in translation, resides the simple requirement to acknowledge the most basic of principles about mankind—specifically our purpose.texting

Many books have been written about mans purpose, and it is my unwavering conviction that God created man and gave him a purpose based upon a series of personal relationships.

God designed the first relationship in man to be based upon a life of worship. It’s in this place of worship that mankind acknowledges his creator and lives joyfully within the balance for which he was created.

Many people today argue against this simple understanding for sake of religion, tolerance, or popular opinion; yet every human being is uniquely created in their personality, fingerprints, DNA, talents, and gifts.

Psalms 139:14, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, and I know that full well.” (NIV)

It never ceases to amaze me of God’s divine order with his creation. Mankind was not expected to attend church every time the church doors were open, nor to sing praise and worship songs until the cows came home.

We were given a responsibility to establish and manage a series of personal relationships throughout life, which would enhance both our lives and the lives of those in our sphere of influence.

It’s in our personal sphere of influence, the Greek term oikos, where this story really begins.

Just 25 years ago, you would’ve been perceived as someone important if you had a pager, yet 20 years ago, you would’ve been even more important if you carried a large mobile telephone.

Since the introduction of the Internet, technologies have radically influenced the way people think, speak, and behave.

Decades ago, healthy relationships were measured by the model of a happily married father and mother in a household where families enjoyed regular meals together, respected their elders, and reserved the mystery of sexuality until marriage.

To say that times have changed would be an understatement in the history of understatements! The explosive combinations of peoples desire to become famous and social networks have created negative affects on relationships that are quickly becoming the norm.

Today, most people carry a cellular telephone, which many are equipped with access to the Internet and social network portals such as Facebook, MySpace, YouTube, or Twitter.

Initially, the allure of joining a social network portal was generally based upon finding friends, promoting a business, or identifying oneself with a global community of like-minded enthusiasts.

The level of effort required to setup oneself on a social network was often time consuming yet engaging, because after all, it is your life.

The more time and energy invested in getting your social network started meant the more often you’d find yourself logging on to see what other people were saying and doing.

Never before has anyone really cared if you were walking your dog, sitting on a lunch break, or watching the rain fall on the ground, yet all of a sudden it now seems to be relevant for whatever reason.

Social networks are now on the global scene to stay, and they have significantly influenced the way people communicate. Once passive personalities, are now boldly proclaiming statements they would never speak out loud to their own mothers.

The creative minds of young people have mastered new language barriers, which take advantage of limited broadcast space to declare their next global statement of legitimacy or ignorance.

There are literally billions of text messages, videos, and images that are broadcast daily around the world, yet fewer people than ever are actually spending time developing their core purpose—personal relationships.

If the truth be known, there are numerous parents everywhere sending text messages to their children instead of personally speaking with them—while they are merely a few steps away in another room; or the young man who breaks up with his girlfriend by updating the status of his social network account.

These examples of virtual relationships within close proximity are irresponsible at best, and pathetic excuses for not personally communicating with others who may or may not closely align with your personal views and convictions.

No technology will ever replace mans relationships, yet many people have been deceived that the reward is worth the risks.

No one gets to choose the people in their sphere of influence, we are literally born into it, whereas social networks allow you to setup controls over whom you allow into your sphere of influence.

I’m convinced every family has a “black sheep” relative that no one wants to talk about; they tend to visit during holidays or inopportune times, and always have something rude to say. If it weren’t for difficult people, we might never pray!

In an effort to streamline relationships through technology, we all bought into a better-broken version of ourselves through building kingdoms of friends in our social networks that we would never meet, lists of top friends—which exclude and annoy our lifelong family and friends, and impersonal updates about irrelevant information, which is at best uninteresting. Where will it all end?

The moral to this story might surprise you in that social networks are not the enemy, it’s problem rests in the choices we make as individuals.

I’ve always said, relationships are dirty business, and it requires us to roll up our sleeves and listen long before we start doing anything.

Could you refrain from checking your social-network status or email for 3-days? I’d like to challenge you today to write down all the names of people who are in your sphere of influence, then include a note on what you need to do this week to encourage them, preferably in person. Buckle up, this could get personal.

Until next time, Be encouraged.


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me. In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


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Discretion.

I encourage you to remember the importance of Discretion today. I hope you’ll enjoy this short video and will go out of your way to share with your your family, friends, and colleagues.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


 

Egypt McKee

Speaker | Author | TV Host | Life Coach

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It should come as no surprise that its much easier to think about success than to actually achieve it. Sadly, we rarely spend much time preparing for what it takes to not only achieve a goal, but to proceed beyond the goal.

The truth remains that too much success to soon will ultimately destroy anyone. Its my honor to share with you my video from when I was the guest speaker at Sunridge Community Church in Southern California (August 2014).

Until next time, Be encouraged.


I speak to thousands of young adults, men, and women annually on leadership, integrity, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


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I will be the guest Speaker for the students of Arnold O. Beckman High School in Irvine, California.

Date: May 16, 2016
Time: 12PM
Event: Woodbridge High School
Sponsor: FCA Student Club Sponsored Event
Venue: Woodbridge High School
Location: 2 Meadowbrook
Irvine, CA 92604
United States of America
Public: Private

I will be the guest Speaker for the Laguna Presbyterian Church Mothers of Preschoolers Group.

Date: March 26, 2015
Time: 09:00AM - 11:00AM
Event: Laguna Prebyterian Church
Topic: It takes a village
Venue: Laguna Prebyterian Church
Location: 415 Forest Avenue
Laguna Beach, CA 92651
USA
Public: Private

I’m guest Speaking in the CVCS High School Chapel

Date: March 24, 2015
Time: 09:00am-10:00am
Event: Capistrano Valley Christian High School
Venue: Capistrano Valley Christian High School
Location: San Juan Capistrano, CA
USA
Public: Private

What’s Up with That?

While running errands, I noticed a group of young adult men hanging around talking to one another. On the surface, there wasn’t anything distinguishing about them except for the fact that they were constantly trying to “one up” each other in a verbally dangerous game of teasing with “Yo Mama” jokes.

I wanted to find out quickly who the leader was, so I said, “What’s up fellas?”, and they quickly gave me a subtle head nod of greeting. I quickly cut to the chase and asked, “Which one of you would speak to your momma the way you’re describing her right now?” If there were ever a time to cue the crickets sound effects, it was now. You could hear a pin drop.

Surely, they must have thought, “Who is this guy?”, yet the looks on their collective faces seem to say, “Not me!” I went on to say, “You know, it’s yo momma that carried you in her belly for 9-months without quitting, she gave you love, changed your diapers, wiped your snotty little noses, fed you, and I think she deserves a lot more respect than you’re giving her and other mothers that you don’t even know.”

Then I looked at them all in their eyes and concluded, “Whoever the leader is in your group has the responsibility to do what’s right and influence others to do what’s right, unless that person doesn’t know what’s right. Considering that not one of these young men grew up with their father present in their homes, it would surprise no one that their outlet for affirmation is spent in tearing one other down.

LEADERSHIP without RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY is just another way of saying, “I choose to be lazy and mooch off the rest of the world, so I’m going to have my cake and eat it too!”

You are better than that, and you have a responsibility to your Creator, yourself, and others. Now let’s get to the dirty work of humbling ourselves and living our purpose in life. Share your comments below! Id’ love to hear from you.

Until next time, Be encouraged.

 


I speak to hundreds of thousands of young adults, men, women, and couples annually on leadership, decision making, and relationships.  Sometimes life has a way of being the antidote to life itself. If you’d like more information on this topic or how to bring me in as a speaker for your next event, please  contact me.

In the meantime, I encourage you to subscribe to my Tribe/Newsletter on my homepage. Post your comment below, Share my blogs with your friends on social media, and visit my website often for daily inspiration.


 

Egypt McKee

Evangelist | Speaker | Author | TV Host

©2014 Copyright, Egypt McKee. All Rights Reserved.

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